In my mid-30s I was single for a solid 6 years. Sometimes I would feel liberated, blissfully happy, and grateful while single. Other times, especially on Valentine's Day, I would catch myself feeling alone.
Now, I realize that Valentine's Day is a commercialized holiday meant for retailers to make money, but I just couldn't help but notice men walking down the busy San Francisco streets with flowers in hand for their special someone. I wanted to have a special someone so badly, but it was the emphasis on the word "special" that kept me single and selective until my special one came along.
And for that, I was and am proud of my decision to wait for my guy, and it was well worth it!
Now back to Valentine's Day...
One year, my roommate Fredy shared with me that when he was single on the Lover's Holiday, he chose to view it as a day for self-love. So he took himself out to dinner and later drew a bath with rose petals, listened to music, and drank red wine.
This was brilliant... and healthy... and all about perspective.
See, we can make any day or holiday mean anything we want it to mean. I don't know why I didn't think of it before, but I'm happy to pass this on to you now.
So have fun with it! What kind of date can you plan for yourself? Go to the museum? A long walk? A movie? Dinner? I say shower yourself with all the things you're waiting a partner to give you. Make it the best date ever. Your precious self deserves it!
Obviously this doesn't have to be limited to just Valentine's Day, because every day is a perfect opportunity to show self-love. It is, however, a great day for a reminder to tap back in to who you are and celebrate your loving nature!
Because you are a lover even if you don't have a romantic partner to give love to right now.
Post pics of your date with yourself to inspire others!
Lots of Big Love,